Husband finds wife's video with boss: divorce costs explained

Boss Infidelity: The Law Offers No Advantage in Divorce

A couple with three children, who started their relationship at age 18, breaks up when the husband finds a sensual video of his vvife with her boss in her gallery. There is no argument, only the certainty of the discovery and a practical question: what happens to the house, child support, and custody?

The case, shared by a friend on a forum, shifts focus from drama to legal details. In Spain, fault-based divorce does not exist, participants note. Either party can request separation without stating a reason, and the judge does not consider who was at fault. The focus is solely on asset division.

Divorce for infidelity does not exist: judges do not consider it

The first legal hurdle is clear. Infidelity is neither a crime nor an aggravating factor: it does not change custody, does not alter child support, and does not open the door to compensation. A marriage is, in practice, one of the few civil contracts where one party breaks it without paying a penalty.

Thus, advice like "ask for divorce and let him deal with it" falls flat. The system does not reward the victim or punish the guilty; it distributes assets based on income, needs, and the economic regime. Both the party breaking the contract and the one suffering it exit through the same door on paper.

How much does separating with three children cost?

Here lies the figure that changes the conversation. With three children, the foreseeable scenario involves child support, use of the family home, and, if there is an economic imbalance, a compensatory allowance. According to one participant's calculation, child support would be around 1,000 euros monthly at the minimum, plus expenses and moving out.

This is the crux of the matter: the party discovering the infidelity not only loses the relationship but also assumes the cost of ending it. Several analyses suggest that for some, it is cheaper to continue living together than to sign the separation, especially if the other party does not work or has low income. It is not cowardice; it is arithmetic.

The unmeasured paternity statistic

The case opens another box: filiation. The shared material states that there are no official statistics on paternity tests due to privacy, but estimates negative results between 15% and 30% of cases, meaning one to three out of ten. These are estimates, not official data, and should be read as such.

Underlying this is a repeated legal warning: if you are the legal guardian, whether or not you prove the biological link, the obligation and child support remain. This is the point that bothers the person who was already looking at the video with the children in mind.

Protecting assets: the tricks shared

Much of the debate focuses on how to protect one's own assets before making a move. Manuals circulate with concrete steps: selling the house under the pretext of buying another, renting temporarily, withdrawing money little by little, registering correspondence at another address, and even visiting betting shops to simulate a gambling problem and justify empty accounts.

These recipes are shared without reservation in anonymity and should be viewed with caution: hiding assets in a divorce is not a clean play and can end up in court. Striking is not the trickery, but the certainty it reveals: people assume the law will not protect them and protect themselves as best they can.

The shock not measured in euros

Amidst the accounts, another current reminds us that not everything is settled in a courtroom. After years together and three children, finding out this way is not just any betrayal. Those who have lived it describe months, even years, of disorientation, and warn that considering forgiveness is not rare. Respect is lost afterwards, not in the act.

This is where the issue stalls. On one hand, dignity demands an immediate door slam. On the other, the mortgage, children, and child support demand calm. The calculation made by the head does not match that made by the pocketbook, and this mismatch—not the infidelity itself—is what truly breaks those who live it.