The myth of the top man women chase without coffee

The 'top' man feminism cannot touch: myth or reality of hypergamy?

Economic debates keep sneaking in a subtext that has always divided the male public: does a type of man really exist whom women approach directly, with no need for coffee dates or courtship, and to whom feminist discourse simply doesn't apply? An exchange in 2025 has put this classic of armchair sociology back on the table.

The supposed archetype combines a defined jawline, thick hair (though some write it off as gone), a height above 1.80 meters, and an aura of relaxed bad boy. The thesis holds that these women don't beat around the bush: they suggest going to his place, to the bathroom, or outright ask "where would you like it," with no hot drink involved. The surname Brocca appears as the supposed key to the phenotype.

The surgical rebuttal: Bichat pads and a smug look

Against this narrative comes the critical reading: the idol would have no natural jawline, surgically removed Bichat pads to sharpen his cheekbones, a badly receding hairline, and oversized, crooked mirror sunglasses. The smug expression, typical of the "simple," would betray a supposed "ally" who gets laid less than his critics. The accusation is blunt: he is a phantom selling posturing, not a real ladies' man.

Biological instinct as the underlying argument

Some voices fall back on the most basic ethology: biology rules. They cite Desmond Morris's "The Naked Ape" to explain that women suggest showering together after casual sens as an atavistic strategy to erase the scent of other female rivals. Or the advice not to wash after the act so the scent of female pheromones acts as a lure. An argument that reduces human complexity to primary impulses.

The gap that remains

The exchange leaves open whether the "top man" is a real category with statistically measurable advantages or a narrative construct that feeds insecurities. Neither data from Spain's INE (national statistics institute) nor matchmaking studies usually include variables like "Bichat surgery" or "smug expression." The discussion largely reflects the anxiety of a segment of the male population that feels displaced by feminist discourse and seeks biological explanations for a social change it cannot control.

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