Forum user details family rift over inheritance

Raised in an Asturian socialist family: no inheritance, broken bonds

A forum user shares his life story, which unfolds as a series of grievances starting with a phone call. His father, who began working at age 14, defends Socialist officials implicated in the ERE scandal (a major Spanish corruption case involving public funds) and other cases. The son, an engineer forced into a degree that took eight years to complete, lives in rented accommodation in Madrid and claims he will inherit nothing. He states that affection has turned into disgust, finding it impossible to look his father in the eye.

The narrative portrays a generation that trinc instructions only to realize late that those instructions were wrong. The question lingering in the thread is: can one cut ties with a father without breaking oneself?

Engineering that guaranteed nothing

The protagonist studied engineering because his father imposed it on him. After eight years of study, he emigrated first to Belgium and then to Madrid, while friends with shorter degrees—such as teaching or nursing—remained in Asturias with paid-off homes. He argues that Asturian industry was dismantled, taking away the future of those trained to sustain it.

Some users argue the blame lies not with parents but with an economic context that crushed mining and steel production. One comment suggests engineers always find work; another replies that they do, but far from home and with salaries barely covering rent in the capital. The gap between these two paths measures the disillusionment described.

The missing inheritance and the fractured family

The account includes an uncomfortable certainty: he says he won't receive a single euro when his father dies. He defines himself as the black sheep, the son who rejects the family narrative. His sister, however, lives with a husband who earns income from inherited properties and criticizes the President of the Community of Madrid from what he considers a comfortable position.

The discussion expanded to reverse mortgages and evaporating inheritances. Several messages warn that many children will discover too late that their parents have spent their assets on current expenses. The repeated conclusion: when this happens, Christmas will be very quiet.

Cutting ties or enduring contempt?

The most common advice is to break off contact. One message puts it bluntly: cut him off, focus on fixing your life, and don't look back. The argument is that the father showed no responsibility, imposed a career path when the son was vulnerable, and plans to leave him nothing. Maintaining the bond only prolongs paralysis that costs the only life he has.

Opposing this is the view calling for reconciliation. The father is seen as a product of his time, a man who started working at 14 and repeats the narrative he was taught. He is not the true enemy, supporters say, but those who shaped his thinking. Reconciliation here doesn't require agreeing with him, just stopping the energy drain of an unwinnable war.

The Asturian context: socialism, mines, and pensions

Several comments place the conflict in a broader framework. Asturias appears as an example of a region that traded prosperity for subsidies. Mining gave way to early retirements, aid, and an ecosystem where socialist voting persists generation after generation, according to participants. Some attribute this to clientelism that turned coal basins into subsidized retirement homes.

Criticism extends to the family defense of corruption. One participant notes that in his circle, the ERE scandal is justified as a form of Robin Hood-ism, stealing from the system to distribute among insiders. Another points out that socialist fervor in Asturias and Extremadura has survived the destruction of the industry that depended on it.

The point where analysis stalls is where it began: if the father doesn't change, if the inheritance never arrives, and if the bond only produces contempt, what remains of the family? No one in the conversation offers a painless answer.