I've stopped trying to fit in, so I use AI to talk to people
How AI is replacing social effort with interaction optimization. A smart strategy, or giving up on authenticity?
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AI for socializing: optimization or surrender?
Arguing face to face is pointless. Anyone who has tried to talk sense into a brother-in-law on Christmas Eve knows that. The problem is that the alternative — nodding and smiling — is exhausting too. From there to letting an AI manage the conversation is just one step, and it's already happening online. The proposal is clear: delegate to artificial intelligence the work of feigning interest, remembering personal details and choosing the right response. The goal: save mental energy and get what you want without wearing yourself out.
The fatigue of the social mask
The diagnosis is damning: most people argue with stock phrases and emotional fallacies, armored against reason. Trying to fit in requires an exhausting effort that rarely leads to genuine connection. The proposed solution is outsourcing: a hidden microphone, an earpiece and an AI that, given the right context, dictates the perfect reply. Some have even created folders with detailed profiles of their contacts — likes, antiestéticars, birthdays — so the AI knows exactly which buttons to press.
A digital profile for every interlocutor
It's nothing new: Aristotle Onassis carried a notebook. Today there are personal relationship management apps. The difference is immediacy: the AI retrieves the file in seconds and suggests the optimal comeback. "Give each person what they're looking for" becomes an industrial process. But the awkward question is: if everyone is faking it, where does real connection fit in?
Criticism: authenticity versus efficiency
Not everyone sees this as pogre. Some argue that the only thing worth developing is "authentic indifference": genuinely not caring about others, not doing it through tools. Others point out that the effort should go into improving social skills, not outsourcing them. And a few simply choose isolation: if you don't want to fit in, don't talk. The majority stance is skeptical: AI as a crutch to avoid facing the discomfort of being yourself.
The future: earpieces and smart glasses?
The hardware already exists: discreet lapel microphones, invisible earpieces, glasses with smart lenses. The logical next step would be a permanent assistant that filters social interaction in real time. But how long until two people using the same system talk without either of them actually being present? The debate leaves more questions than answers.
The underlying issue isn't technical: it's whether authenticity has any value in a society where optimization devours everything. The data doesn't lie, but a genuine smile can't be programmed either.
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Arguing face to face is pointless. Anyone who has tried to talk sense into a brother-in-law on Christmas Eve knows that. The problem is that the alternative — nodding and smiling — is exhausting too. From there to letting an AI manage the conversation is just one step, and it's already happening online. The proposal is clear: delegate to artificial intelligence the work of feigning interest, remembering personal details and choosing the right response. The goal: save mental energy and get what you want without wearing yourself out.
The fatigue of the social mask
The diagnosis is damning: most people argue with stock phrases and emotional fallacies, armored against reason. Trying to fit in requires an exhausting effort that rarely leads to genuine connection. The proposed solution is outsourcing: a hidden microphone, an earpiece and an AI that, given the right context, dictates the perfect reply. Some have even created folders with detailed profiles of their contacts — likes, antiestéticars, birthdays — so the AI knows exactly which buttons to press.
A digital profile for every interlocutor
It's nothing new: Aristotle Onassis carried a notebook. Today there are personal relationship management apps. The difference is immediacy: the AI retrieves the file in seconds and suggests the optimal comeback. "Give each person what they're looking for" becomes an industrial process. But the awkward question is: if everyone is faking it, where does real connection fit in?
Criticism: authenticity versus efficiency
Not everyone sees this as pogre. Some argue that the only thing worth developing is "authentic indifference": genuinely not caring about others, not doing it through tools. Others point out that the effort should go into improving social skills, not outsourcing them. And a few simply choose isolation: if you don't want to fit in, don't talk. The majority stance is skeptical: AI as a crutch to avoid facing the discomfort of being yourself.
The future: earpieces and smart glasses?
The hardware already exists: discreet lapel microphones, invisible earpieces, glasses with smart lenses. The logical next step would be a permanent assistant that filters social interaction in real time. But how long until two people using the same system talk without either of them actually being present? The debate leaves more questions than answers.
The underlying issue isn't technical: it's whether authenticity has any value in a society where optimization devours everything. The data doesn't lie, but a genuine smile can't be programmed either.
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