40 Years of Friendship, Now Bored by the Routine
A Spanish man reflects on 40 years of unbreakable friendship now dulled by repetitive poker nights and routine.
English · Original discussion in Spanish · Published
40 Years of Friendship and a Void Poker Can't Fill
The weekly poker games are no longer what they used to be. Three decades ago, a group of friends met up to three times a month to play, go out for drinks, and reminisce about techno in the 90s. Today, they meet seven or eight times a year, always with the same plan: dinner, billiards, darts. And one of them is bored. Not by the company –they are his brothers, he insists– but by the repetition of the ritual. It has been 40 years since they met at age 12-13, and over the last 10-12 years, the enthusiasm has deflated. The dilemma is not new, but this case starkly illustrates the emotional cost of loyalty to a circle that no longer fits.
The Inevitable Decline of Shared Routine
The group has gradually reduced the frequency of meetings: from almost daily hangouts in the 90s to an average of 7-8 annual encounters. The member who started the debate admits he has lied to avoid some gatherings. Geographical distance –he lives 100 km from the city– has worsened the wear and tear. But the core issue is different: the activities that once united them, like the poker games (formerly 2-3 per month, now 4-5 per year), have lost their magic. "It's just not the same anymore," he summarizes. The spontaneous debate generated by his confession reflects two currents: those who see the evolution as natural maturity –"that's called growing up"– and those who advocate for innovating the plans or accepting that friendship doesn't require constant fun.
The Paradox of Unconditional Love and Ennui
The most striking aspect of the testimony is the absence of resentment. The bond is described as "unbreakable," without betrayals or plots. But the fun has evaporated. Several replies point out that the problem isn't the friendship, but the anchoring to a youth leisure model. "Propose a plan that isn't just getting drunk on whiskey and doing drugs," they tell him. Others recall that chosen solitude is also valid: "Honestly, I increasingly feel like being alone," confessed another member, who stopped meeting up abruptly. The discomfort of feeling guilty for being bored with your best friends is a symptom that relationships, however solid, need fresh oxygen.
The Lingering Question
If the love remains intact, why does the routine hurt? The debate doesn't resolve how to rejuvenate a four-decade bond without breaking it. Perhaps the answer lies in daring to talk about boredom instead of lying. Or in accepting that true friendship doesn't demand you always feel comfortable.
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The weekly poker games are no longer what they used to be. Three decades ago, a group of friends met up to three times a month to play, go out for drinks, and reminisce about techno in the 90s. Today, they meet seven or eight times a year, always with the same plan: dinner, billiards, darts. And one of them is bored. Not by the company –they are his brothers, he insists– but by the repetition of the ritual. It has been 40 years since they met at age 12-13, and over the last 10-12 years, the enthusiasm has deflated. The dilemma is not new, but this case starkly illustrates the emotional cost of loyalty to a circle that no longer fits.
The Inevitable Decline of Shared Routine
The group has gradually reduced the frequency of meetings: from almost daily hangouts in the 90s to an average of 7-8 annual encounters. The member who started the debate admits he has lied to avoid some gatherings. Geographical distance –he lives 100 km from the city– has worsened the wear and tear. But the core issue is different: the activities that once united them, like the poker games (formerly 2-3 per month, now 4-5 per year), have lost their magic. "It's just not the same anymore," he summarizes. The spontaneous debate generated by his confession reflects two currents: those who see the evolution as natural maturity –"that's called growing up"– and those who advocate for innovating the plans or accepting that friendship doesn't require constant fun.
The Paradox of Unconditional Love and Ennui
The most striking aspect of the testimony is the absence of resentment. The bond is described as "unbreakable," without betrayals or plots. But the fun has evaporated. Several replies point out that the problem isn't the friendship, but the anchoring to a youth leisure model. "Propose a plan that isn't just getting drunk on whiskey and doing drugs," they tell him. Others recall that chosen solitude is also valid: "Honestly, I increasingly feel like being alone," confessed another member, who stopped meeting up abruptly. The discomfort of feeling guilty for being bored with your best friends is a symptom that relationships, however solid, need fresh oxygen.
The Lingering Question
If the love remains intact, why does the routine hurt? The debate doesn't resolve how to rejuvenate a four-decade bond without breaking it. Perhaps the answer lies in daring to talk about boredom instead of lying. Or in accepting that true friendship doesn't demand you always feel comfortable.
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