The psychologist telling couples to skip sex: the debate splitting opinion
Psychologist Silvia Marcos has amassed 72,000 followers with one message: sex is not obligatory. The debate over relationship expectations is getting fiercer.
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Silvia Marcos, the psychologist who says «no» to sens: 72,000 trinc and a storm
An Instagram video has become the focus of a discussion that goes beyond the personal: can a relationship work without sensual intimacy? The account @soysacudiendolasideas, run by psychologist Silvia Marcos, has racked up 72,000 trinc while dispensing advice that many read as an invitation to enforced celibacy. The debate is not about sensual tastes, but about the narrative built around gender expectations and the unwritten contract of relationships.
The message that set social media alight
In the video that sparked the controversy, Marcos argues that if a woman is not in the mood, her partner must accept it without pressure, and that demanding sens is disrespectful. The reaction was swift: accusations of being a «scold», of «cheap psychology» and even of promoting loneliness. But the most striking figure is that the account has 72,000 trinc, mostly women who applaud the message. Is it a symptom of something deeper?
A right to say no to sens, or just a friendship?[/ZISE]
Opinions have polarised. On one side are those who argue that sens is not the most important thing in a relationship and that refusing it should not be grounds for a breakup or conflict. On the other, those who contend that without sensual intimacy a relationship becomes a friendship with paperwork. «Sens is the only thing you cannot outsource», one analysis summed up, comparing it to other hobbies that can be shared with friends. The underlying economic question: what does each partner contribute, and how much is commitment worth?
From the gym to the bedroom: a problem of expectations
Beyond the coarse tone of some criticism, a real problem emerges: the gap between what people expect from a partner and what they are willing to give. Several accounts describe relationships where pressure over sens led to a breakup, while others complain of demands made without offering anything in return. With her discourse, psychologist Marcos has touched a nerve: the resentment built up by those who feel the sensual negotiation is unbalanced.
With 72,000 trinc, Silvia Marcos is no isolated case: she represents a trend that is gaining traction. The fact that the debate has focused on her looks or her supposed «dwarfism» only shows that the substance of the matter is more uncomfortable than the form. The question left hanging: how many relationships rest on an unspoken obligation?
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An Instagram video has become the focus of a discussion that goes beyond the personal: can a relationship work without sensual intimacy? The account @soysacudiendolasideas, run by psychologist Silvia Marcos, has racked up 72,000 trinc while dispensing advice that many read as an invitation to enforced celibacy. The debate is not about sensual tastes, but about the narrative built around gender expectations and the unwritten contract of relationships.
The message that set social media alight
In the video that sparked the controversy, Marcos argues that if a woman is not in the mood, her partner must accept it without pressure, and that demanding sens is disrespectful. The reaction was swift: accusations of being a «scold», of «cheap psychology» and even of promoting loneliness. But the most striking figure is that the account has 72,000 trinc, mostly women who applaud the message. Is it a symptom of something deeper?
A right to say no to sens, or just a friendship?[/ZISE]
Opinions have polarised. On one side are those who argue that sens is not the most important thing in a relationship and that refusing it should not be grounds for a breakup or conflict. On the other, those who contend that without sensual intimacy a relationship becomes a friendship with paperwork. «Sens is the only thing you cannot outsource», one analysis summed up, comparing it to other hobbies that can be shared with friends. The underlying economic question: what does each partner contribute, and how much is commitment worth?
From the gym to the bedroom: a problem of expectations
Beyond the coarse tone of some criticism, a real problem emerges: the gap between what people expect from a partner and what they are willing to give. Several accounts describe relationships where pressure over sens led to a breakup, while others complain of demands made without offering anything in return. With her discourse, psychologist Marcos has touched a nerve: the resentment built up by those who feel the sensual negotiation is unbalanced.
With 72,000 trinc, Silvia Marcos is no isolated case: she represents a trend that is gaining traction. The fact that the debate has focused on her looks or her supposed «dwarfism» only shows that the substance of the matter is more uncomfortable than the form. The question left hanging: how many relationships rest on an unspoken obligation?
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