Joining an online community: two months of waiting and strict doctrine

Two months of waiting to join a community with its own doctrine

What should you expect from a digital space that takes two months to confirm your membership? Based on one newcomer's recent experience, the answer has little to do with hospitality and a lot to do with control. The community in question boasts 1,500 people online, but the first impression is that of a club with limited capacity and unwritten rules.

The entry toll: wait and stay quiet

The onboarding process includes a trial period during which new members are barred from starting new threads. It's the classic "probation" that forces you to read, absorb and, above all, not make a nuisance of yourself. The logic is clear: understand the adversary before exposing yourself. A veteran's advice is blunt: don't reply until you've mapped the terrain.

The doctrine that cannot be questioned

Moderation emerges as the main filter. Some claim that any deviation from gender orthodoxy leads to immediate expulsion. Others go further and describe it as an appendage of the dominant political propaganda. What is clear is that diversity of opinion is hardly the founding value.

The double standard also has its place: while certain male-only spaces that restrict women's access are branded as sens, in female-dominated communities that same restriction is taken for granted. Nobody seems to notice the contradiction.

In the end, the welcome boils down to two months of waiting, a mandatory period of silence and the certainty that the exit door is as close as the entrance. Welcome to the club: now shut up, listen and don't touch the doctrine.