«Going down on women is for losers»: the endless male sex debate

«Going down on women is for losers»: the endless male sens debate

In Spanish online hangouts, one topic keeps resurfacing with the force of a classic: whether performing oral sens on a woman is a sign of weakness or, on the contrary, a mark of manhood. A recent exchange of opinions has reignited the controversy. Far from being mere entertainment, the discussion reveals deep fractures in the perception of contemporary masculinity.

The origin of the debate: a quote attributed to the «virgin gurus of the attic»

It all began with a blunt claim: «I've read it several times from the virgin gurus of the attic. If they say so, it must be true». The reference, dripping with irony, points to supposed seduction experts who, from their particular perch, decree which practices are fit only for «losers». From there, the positions multiplied.

One faction of the debaters holds that performing oral sens on a woman is an act of submission, a concession they don't value and that, moreover, earns mockery. «It's for wimps, because they laugh at you when you do it», declares one of the most quoted messages. The theory is reinforced with an economic argument: if women truly enjoyed it, there would be no stable couples, since «they'd be screwing 15 new guys every week».

The reciprocity thesis: mutual pleasure or humiliation?

Against this current, another emerges that defends oral sens as an integral part of shared pleasure. «If you want her to pee in your mouth, you have to make the effort first», one participant quips. The discussion drifts toward the nature of male pleasure: what do you get out of touching a breast? «The nerve endings in that tit aren't connected to your brain, but to hers», argues one analyst, for whom true enjoyment lies in the partner's response. Another adds an everyday scene: «Tits were invented to be touched at night, while spooning... That feeling of peace and calm is sublime».

The exchange is sprinkled with cultural references and bar-room slang. Tony Soprano's crew gets a mention, the merits of «eating shishi» are debated, and there are jokes that «going down on guys is for heroes». The discussion, seemingly frivolous, exposes a real tension: peer pressure and models of masculinity.

The ending: a stalemate with a joking flavor

The debate reaches no definitive conclusion. A final message sums up how many feel: «The virgins on the forum say women don't like being eaten out. Every woman I've been with has asked me to... So which is it?». The question hangs in the air, somewhere between laughter and bewilderment. The only certainty is that the topic keeps people talking.