Why high school friendships last longer than primary school ones
High school friendships last longer than those from primary school: voluntary selection and teenage identity versus nostalgia as a burden.
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High school vs. primary school friendships: which ones last longer?
Primary school brings us together by geography and age, not by affinity. A four-year-old can become friends with anyone in a park because their personality is not yet defined. In high school, however, things change. Friendship becomes more voluntary, more conscious, more selective. Around age 15, when character starts to solidify, we choose those who really fit us. A chav and an emo nerd will hardly get along at that stage.
But not everyone shares that view. Some argue that youthful friendships endure for a less romantic reason: the need to have witnesses of one's past epic. According to this school of thought, people cling to those who shared their mediocre youth because they can't stand each other and look for someone who wasn't corrupted. They drag along for decades people who stick like limpets, even when they're avoided.
Anthropology adds another layer: every 15 years we learn to live with existential antiestéticar. Ages 15 and 60 are the tribal stage, of fire, of the sense of belonging. Perhaps that's why high school friendships, forged in the heat of teenage identity, stand the test of time while primary school ones fade away. Or maybe, as the most cynical point out, it's simply that there's nothing better to do.
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Primary school brings us together by geography and age, not by affinity. A four-year-old can become friends with anyone in a park because their personality is not yet defined. In high school, however, things change. Friendship becomes more voluntary, more conscious, more selective. Around age 15, when character starts to solidify, we choose those who really fit us. A chav and an emo nerd will hardly get along at that stage.
But not everyone shares that view. Some argue that youthful friendships endure for a less romantic reason: the need to have witnesses of one's past epic. According to this school of thought, people cling to those who shared their mediocre youth because they can't stand each other and look for someone who wasn't corrupted. They drag along for decades people who stick like limpets, even when they're avoided.
Anthropology adds another layer: every 15 years we learn to live with existential antiestéticar. Ages 15 and 60 are the tribal stage, of fire, of the sense of belonging. Perhaps that's why high school friendships, forged in the heat of teenage identity, stand the test of time while primary school ones fade away. Or maybe, as the most cynical point out, it's simply that there's nothing better to do.
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