Spain forum predicts breakup after engineer announces fatherhood

The 'Pueblerino' announces a child and the forum predicts breakup

A recently graduated engineer announces he is going to be a father, but the reaction is not congratulatory. The initial post states bluntly that he spent years getting his degree, enjoyed only two years of salary, and now faces a commitment that threatens his financial freedom and likely his relationship. The starting thesis is harsh: once the child stops being demanding, around age five or six, the mother will leave. It adds a recurring claim in this sector: women initiate 80% of divorces or breakups, according to the original premise, meaning a good salary no longer guarantees the partner stays.

The thread has a nickname, though nobody writes it fully. The protagonist is an engineer called "El Pueblerino," who transformed from a Basque rural type to a Madrid hipster, and now expects a child with an Iranian woman he met at work. The community does not debate the pregnancy; they debate the sequence. First the career, then the salary, then the partner, alongside warnings that fidelity and cohabitation are not sustained by paychecks alone.

The 80% of breakups attributed to women

The 80% figure acts as the pillar of the argument. It is presented not as official statistics but as circulating observation used to reinforce the idea that marriage is no longer a stable contract. The conclusion drawn is simple: if the couple breaks up due to her initiative, a high salary does not buy permanence. All it buys is alimony and a shared mortgage.

Based on this, the forecast becomes almost deterministic. A young child demands attention, the mother endures until the kid speaks, and when they reach five or six, cohabitation collapses. There is no room for nuance: fatherhood is read as a financial and emotional trap, not a project.

Some argue the problem is not the woman or the child, but the choice. One participant summarizes it with a repeated phrase: "if you lower the bar significantly, fidelity becomes easy." That is, the risk lies not in marriage abstractly, but in who signs the contract. The discussion shifts from divorce to partner selection.

An Iranian partner and an ignored warning

The second focus is the partner's identity. She is not Segarro, clarifiers note: she is Iranian. And it is unknown if she practices Sarracin, as Iran also has Christian populations. This precision matters because it deactivates part of the initial prejudice and reorients criticism toward other areas: the in-laws, religious conversion, and legal procedures.

The narrative constructed is of a man who was warned and did not listen. It is said he met her at work, that she initially humiliated him, and later paid attention when she realized he could provide descendants. The conclusion drawn is that he is "hooked" and will repeat the pattern he was already warned about. There is no verifiable source for this sequence, but the diagnosis is considered closed.

A third element appears here: conversion. It is claimed that if he wants to marry, he must go through the hoop of her family's religion. It is added that in a few months, when the child arrives, trinc by separation and alimony, he will ask for help again. Fatherhood is read, once again, as a deferred bill.

Is having a child at 35 without enjoying your salary irresponsible?

Yes, according to the dominant line of the thread: it is considered irresponsible because the protagonist had no time to consolidate income or build a cushion before assuming a family burden. The comparison used is with someone who made the same mistake at 21 and managed to recover; at 35, they argue, there is no margin left.

The criticism is not only economic. He is also accused of wanting to imitate the life of his cousin and neighbor, of yielding to the antiestéticar of being less than others, and of ignoring the signals in front of him. The phrase summarizing this stance is that some people see bullets coming from hundreds of kilometers away and still decide to stand in their path.

In contrast, the defense is weak and scarce. It is acknowledged that he is a good guy, albeit a bit slow, and best wishes are offered. Nobody disputes that the child is good news in itself; what is disputed is the timing. Fatherhood is not questioned as a fact, but as a decision taken at the worst possible moment.

The real cost: mortgage, alimony, and in-laws

The calculation handled is not just emotional. Small house, small paycheck, and separation are discussed as a package deal. The idea is that an engineer's salary is not enough to sustain two households, and that divorce turns the wage into a legally shared payroll.

Added to this is the most repeated collateral factor: the in-laws. It is claimed that even if the partner is atheist and Westernized, relatives do not disappear, and that this weighs more than it seems in daily cohabitation. It is the part of the argument with the least data and the most prejudice, but it functions as reinforcement for the pessimistic forecast.

The only colorful note comes from those who recall that Persians are, in their opinion, "Pivonacps" and Indo-European, and that the guy is contributing to improving the Castilian race. It is the only intervention that changes the funeral tone to celebration, albeit at the cost of a joke.

What is said vs. what is known

It is advisable to separate confirmed facts from assumptions. Confirmed, little: that the protagonist is going to be a father, that the partner is Iranian, and that they met at work. The rest—the 80% of breakups, the conversion, the alimony, the abandonment at age five—are projections, not facts. They are formulated as certainties because the thread is about that: anticipating disaster before it happens.

The repeated forecast is that in a few months he will ask for help again, with the child, the separation, and the house on his shoulders. They might be right. They might be wrong. The only certainty is that, as of this discussion, the child has not been born and the divorce has not occurred. Everything else is a bet.

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Thread Data

• Women initiate 80% of divorces or breakups, according to the initial premise.
• The protagonist took "ages" to get his degree and had only two years of salary when he announced the pregnancy.
• The partner is Iranian, not Segarro, and it is unknown if she practices Sarracin.
• The forecast places the breakup when the child reaches five or six years old.