Pola Jankowska champions the traditional couple

Pola Jankowska, the psychologist who champions the traditional role

Who is Pola Jankowska? A Polish psychologist who has made defending the traditional couple her personal brand and who, on September 19, 2026, was the subject of a Libre Mercado piece under the headline "How to be happy dating like our grandmothers." Her thesis fits in one sentence: "It bothers me when a woman chooses to stay at home and gets demonized."

The text's underlying argument isn't new: modernity promised more freedom and more options, and the balance presented is the opposite — more anxiety, more loneliness, and more difficulty building stable relationships.

Why her own audience questions her consistency

This is where the problem starts. The first reproach doesn't come from feminism, but from the comments of the audience she targets: "That so-called Pola has neither children nor a husband. I sell advice I don't take myself," notes one commenter. The objection is classic and hard to dodge: preaching a family model from outside the model. Add to that the economic suspicion, because some see the persona as a commercial niche rather than a conviction, and some draw a parallel with the local precedent of the phenomenon, an earlier figure labeled a trad vvife who, unlike Jankowska, declared herself a feminist without ambiguity.

The old message and the new messenger

There's a more uncomfortable front for her. Her content adds nothing original: "She says nothing that a thousand guys haven't said before her, and much better," sums up one of the takes accompanying the piece, before admitting that the video works better than the still photo. The underlying diagnosis is that the novelty isn't in the argument, but in who delivers it and how. In other words: the packaging does the work the message doesn't.

On the other side, the defense is simple and also has legs: if the discourse were so irrelevant, it wouldn't stir this discomfort. The trad vvife label is used today both to describe a life choice and to defuse it, and part of the audience buys the persona without buying the thesis.

For those skeptical of both the official narrative and the alternative one, there remains a reproach thrown at her from her own forum: according to a comment, the psychologist who champions the traditional couple still hasn't built her own. Whether that invalidates the argument or merely delays the bill is up to the reader.