Extreme attractiveness fuels social conflict in Spain

Extreme attractiveness as a source of social conflict

A naturally handsome, strong, well-dressed man. His presence sparks reactions ranging from nervousness to hostility. According to the opening post, average-looking women avoid him or show displeasure, while highly attractive ones get nervous and look down. Men either ignore him or pick fights. The uncomfortable thesis: extreme physical attractiveness doesn't generate unanimous admiration, but cross-cutting rejection not provoked by his behavior.

When attractiveness exceeds the average

The initial premise suggests there is a threshold where attractiveness stops being an advantage and becomes a problem. The poster claims his friend has been handsome since childhood and always heard so. He also notes his friend takes care of himself, dresses well, and smells good, reinforcing the effect. Consequently, average-looking women treat him with disdain and high-attractiveness women freeze up. It’s not a flattering description: it confirms that excess demand generates defensive responses.

Some nuance this rejection isn't universal. One participant points out that everyone likes a sweet deal and male envy coexists with admiration and submission. Another suggests the narrator seems fascinated by his friend, reducing objectivity. The discussion doesn't deny the phenomenon exists; it debates its scope.

Using an attractive friend for dating success

Here comes the practical twist. A user shares that a former coworker was scandalously successful with women. He’d enter a group and hook them all within minutes. Since he couldn’t date four at once, others leveraged his pull. He took the prettiest; friends got the rest. This is the most cynical yet useful version: extreme attractiveness as a public good.

This aligns with another experience describing a model-type guy whom women approached, bought drinks, and invited home. The conclusion: when a woman likes someone, she moves heaven and earth. Attractiveness doesn’t just open doors; it changes surrounding behavior.

Envied, ignored, and targeted for fights

The original story insists most men avoid his friend or seek conflict. Several posts confirm this tension with personal experiences. One admits envying a nearly perfect friend: handsome, good student, confident, easy with women. He even started dressing similarly to imitate him. The friendship cooled without clear reason and ended.

This testimony is the thread’s most revealing. Not about aggression, but silent erosion: friendship breaks due to comparison. Another admits discomfort beside a more handsome man, or even taller people. He frames it as needing to feel above to avoid feeling below.

Envy as a driver of social relations

The conversation shifts to broader analysis. Someone argues physical appearance is the main source of security or insecurity for both genders. Adds a summarizing phrase: people don’t disgust me; I simply divide them into those who cause envy and those who don’t.

Another admits always being envious, though not resentful, calling envy perhaps the most human sin. The discussion leaves the specific case for psychological ground: others’ attractiveness as an uncomfortable mirror. No data, just accumulated experience and sincerity.

Final twist: the topic morphs

As the chat pogre, focus shifts. Comparisons between male and female attractiveness, infidelity references, partner beauty, and discomfort at couple dinners where your vvife’s friend looks better than yours. The original handsome-friend debate becomes a starting point for wider discussions on status, comparison, and desire.

The thread drifts far from the initial premise. Common occurrence: starts with one case, ends discussing everyone. The unanswered question remains: does extreme attractiveness inherently cause rejection, or only reveal what others carry inside?